My Pledge as a Parent on Social Media

Like so many other mornings, we played in the lake. Only this time we let the baby out of his pac n play. Ryker, my oldest, is behind Van making sure he doesn’t fall backwards. Willa is telling him to smile. Van can’t wait for me to take the picture so he can resume sneaking handfuls of sand into his mouth. I honestly can’t watch them smile and splash around today without feeling sick to my stomach.

Several states away there is a mother who will soon return from her family vacation. She’ll unpack the suitcases. She’ll unfold the tiny clothes her son will never wear again. She’ll wake up in her own bed and—for just a second—wonder if this all really happened. It just doesn’t seem real.

As a parent social media can be many things…

It can be fun. Sharing pictures of your kids from their first day in the hospital, to high school graduation. A first bike ride or ballet recital. Videos of little feet taking their first steps. I haven’t seen some of my sorority sisters in ten years, but I love sharing photos of our children.

It can be helpful. There are several parenting groups I have joined since I became a mom. Some for new mommies, others for Cleveland moms to ask questions or share supplies, even a private group for those who struggle with infertility or are looking to adopt. If you can’t figure out how to install your car seat correctly, there’s a facebook group for that too.

It can be incredibly judgmental. Stories about real people—happy or sad—are put through a series of unknown tests. People are eager to type away reasons why you are failing as a parent. Complete strangers make you question yourself, your beliefs or humanity all together. All the while, these comments are read, shared and deeply impact real human beings.

It has the ability to unite. When you become a mom, the initiation is immediate. There are blogs for “bad parents” who share how difficult this gig really is. Instagram accounts dedicated to parental mishaps and daily struggles. Prayers are requested and given by thousands—sometimes millions—for people who have never met.

When I think of the parents in recent media stories my heart literally breaks. I question my faith. I question why I have three healthy kids when so many others do not. I wonder what it is that I can do differently to help make this world and my little soldiers…better.

The thought is overwhelming. So I will start small.

I will make a choice when I see a story or a picture from another parent. It does not matter if I know them. We are all still parents, together.

I will remember that words are powerful. I will choose to lift people up. I will offer my support, my prayers, my thumbs up emojis.

I will remind myself that I make mistakes. Every single day with my own kids, I don’t get it right. But I will continue to try my hardest and remind other parents to go easy on themselves.

I will keep in mind, no matter how different the parent on social media is from myself, they are still someone’s mother or father. They have little people who think they hung the moon.

I will be a better mom. A better wife. A better daughter. I don’t know how but I will start by hugging my kids more, supporting my husband and calling my parents every morning. Because at the end of the day, they are all still here. And that makes me the luckiest person in the world.

 

 

 

 

 

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Sharon says:

    Parenting is difficult with many joys and sorrows. Joining together is a positive way to support one another without judging is awesome. Your pledge to support others, is wonderful.

  2. Bronwen Lee says:

    Bravo! I often wonder what those individuals who deal out judgement on social media experience personally. How much must they judge themselves? For one can not pull judgement out of nothing. They must be living steeped in personal judgement or they wouldn’t feel the need to pass it on. It’s a sad thing truly. Great post.

    1. Roaringacres says:

      Thank you for reading! I’m a new stay at home mom and am amazed at those I encounter who are quick to judge. I think your analysis is spot on.

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